Freeing the Butterfly: A Workshop on Clearing of Core Beliefs by Zen Coach, Charmaine Treherne
‘When we notice our patterns, it is still often easier to revert back to known behaviour and beliefs where we feel comfortable. But we can open ourselves to our patterns and beliefs and, like butterflies on a summer’s day, they will fly away!’ – Kåre Landfald
Earlier this year I did a five month training on how to clear beliefs. I always knew beliefs were significant, but until I started to actively work with mine, I did not know exactly how strongly our beliefs affect our lives. Beliefs are in fact the lens through which we live our lives. Even though our true nature is Essence, the extent to which we access it depends on our beliefs. Because beliefs are made in the sub-conscious mind, no amount of conscious deciding or manifesting or even affirmations will change them. A problem can never be solved at the level it was created. Einstein said that and he was right. To change beliefs, one needs to work on a deeper level than the mind or the conscious level. We need to work directly with the sub-conscious.
As a Zen Coach and a qualified BeliefCloset beliefs clearing practitioner and I want to offer something of what I learned about how to clear beliefs with the Zen Coaching network. I will therefore be offering 3 mini-workshops over the next two months, geared specifically to Zen Coaches (accredited or still in training).
October 2nd, 30th and November 20th.
Anyone who has gone through Level I of the Zen Coach training will have touch in on the significance of beliefs. Basically, at the root of all of our life experiences are our beliefs. In fact so powerful are our beliefs, that it is said they are the very lens that we experience life through because they colour everything that we see, and they are also the filter through which we respond to life and express ourselves. Our beliefs are pretty much our human operating system. They affect everything we experience; everything we say, do and hear.
What are Beliefs?
Kåre says that ‘beliefs are ideas’. They are ideas that are created by our response to outer circumstances that we go through, and they are ideas we form mostly as ways to protect us from harm in some way. Most of our core beliefs which are the beliefs that we live our lives by, are formed in childhood. They become the lens through which we see life and the programme that formulates our expression and response to life.
This is why it is said that our beliefs create our experience of reality. As children we created certain beliefs to protect ourselves and stay in favour of the adults upon whom our lives depended. For instance, we may have experienced at a young age that when we cry sometimes mamma will not come. That is a frightening realization because mamma is our life. She is providing me with the milk of life. But one day when I cry, she doesn’t come and I am devastated. So I create the belief that I must be doing something wrong and I must try harder to please mamma so that whenever I cry, she will come. This is an example of how we create a belief that we have to please people.
The problems arise when our beliefs no longer serve us and start to conflict with our intentions or what we want for our lives. Kåre says: ‘If you are having conflict, as a coach, I am curious, what is the core idea that creates the conflict[i]? Because it is YOU who has made that a conflict. It’s you who is making it a conflict. And you are making it a conflict because of a core idea in your head, in your mind. And every person has their own variation. And as a coach I want to identify the core belief.’ He continues: ‘Now you may have chosen this belief very early in my childhood, and it is established as a core belief. And this core belief sets up habitual ways of thinking, feeling and acting. So as a coach, I identify the core belief, I will see that it is the core belief which makes these needs in conflict. It’s not so hard to find out what the core belief is, because it’s based on something like this: If I do this, then that will happen. So for example if you allow yourself freedom to travel, then you will have no money.
Kåre also says: ‘All anxiety is based on some element of mistrust[ii]. It is based on these beliefs that we learned in childhood patterns. For instance you could have learned that it wasn’t always safe to express yourself. Sometimes when you came from the heart as a young child and came up with love and joy and got a smack in the face. Shut up stupid kid. Now that experience is extremely painful. Even if the slap wasn’t physical. Just be quiet is actually quite a violent statement. So here is the child expressing pure excitement and joy and screaming with the joy and delight of being alive, and the reaction is ‘shut up. The implication is: It’s not important what YOU feel’ – you must fit in with everybody else.
How to Clear Beliefs
The first step to clearing a belief is to become aware that you have it. There are various ways of doing this and during this workshop you will be taught some fail-proof methods to determine your own limiting beliefs. Kåre says that ‘Once I can identify and see the ideas that I am identified with and living out, I can choose to no longer identify with it.’
The BeliefCloset clearing process which I use to clear beliefs, does exactly that. It shows you what your beliefs are and once seen, you can then evaluated whether you want to keep the belief or replace it with a better one. So they can in fact become like ‘butterflies on a summers day’ and simply fly away.
Beliefs are like conclusions. Kåre puts it like this: ‘When we make a judgment about something (life, money, ourselves, the world etc), we have actually made a conclusion and when we believe that conclusion, only that which we have concluded, will show up[iii]. For example, if you believe you will never be rich, then you never will be! We live out of these core beliefs or limiting patterns, until we realise we can re-program them or allow them to dissolve.’
Beliefs become habits and they need to be questioned to see if they are still valid ideas. Kåre says: ‘There is one principle that I use in Zen Coaching, which is to see clearly how useless certain of our habits are[iv]. Many of these habits are established to create a certain result, and if we haven’t questioned those habits then they will continue to not give the results that you are looking for.’ This is why the ‘Law of Attraction’ doesn’t always work. Because our beliefs live in the sub-conscious mind and it is the conscious mind that we are using when we set intentions for manifestations.’ It is also the conscious mind that we learn information with so no matter how much we learn, even about ourselves, unless and until we work directly where the beliefs are, in the sub-conscious, they will not be changed.
To clear beliefs we need to work with the sub-conscious mind, which, in the Belief Closet process is done by making use of the imagination and working in what we call the ‘imaginal realm’. The imaginal realm is the part of us that creates images, dreams, guided meditations etc. It is making use of the imagination in a creative way, to shift core beliefs.
As Kåre says in the webinar: How to Relax in Everyday Life, the first step to clearing a belief is to ‘notice that what I am wanting to achieve is not achieved by this idea or habit – this is the first step. For instance, I want to have more money but I believe that rich people are selfish and I am afraid of becoming selfish. Now the coach can simply put the mirror – a very clear mirror – to show you that actually your idea about rich people being selfish will have the opposite effect of what you are wanting. So what I am doing in feeling fear (of being selfish) has the opposite effect of what I am wanting to achieve! At that moment that you see that, something opens up.’
‘So we need to see the irrationality of our beliefs; and because for the most part we are so blind to these things so we need somebody who can hold up a clear mirror and show us and ask us some questions.’
This workshop will serve as that ‘clear mirror’ to hold up to you so that you can see your beliefs. Once you’ve seen them, you can then decide whether you wish to clear them and re-create new ones that will serve you better, or keep them.
Creating more Life-Affirming Beliefs
Once you are aware of your limiting belief, for example: I am fundamentally flawed, you can decide whether to keep it or not. The process of the Belief Closet is like a guided meditation.
In this workshop, I will invite you to have a look at your life and notice what some life-constraining conclusions you may be living out.
Once you enroll for the workshop, you will be sent some pre-reading and a questionnaire that will help you to identify some of your core beliefs.
I am a qualified Zen Coach as well as a registered BeliefsCloset Practitioner. I have been in the self-development arena for some 30 years. You can read more about me here: www.charmainetreherne.com
What will be covered in the Workshops?
In the workshops you will learn how to identify and name your own beliefs; to see how they hinder (or help) your life experience;
To evaluate whether you wish to keep them or re-create them;
How to clear your beliefs (I will do some demonstrations) and
How to replace your beliefs with more life-affirming ones that are relevant to you now;
The price for the workshops are E15 for each workshop and you are invited to attend all 3 because each time something different will be covered. If you do sign up for all 3 workshops there is a discount and you will only pay E40 for all three. For South Africans the price is R150 per workshop or R400 for all three.
The workshops will take place via Skype at 19h00 Central European/Africa time. They will last approximately 2 hours.
Read more about the BeliefClearning Training process here: . You can read more about it here: https://beliefcloset.isrefer.com/go/CYBPP/Charmtre
CONTACT ME TO RESERVE YOUR SPOT: Email: firstname.lastname@example.org. Include your Skype email address and Skype Name and let me know how many workshops you will be attending. I will send payment details on confirmation. You can pay via Paypal.
[i] Module III (Concerning conflicting longings)
[ii] Trust Webinar.
[iii] Relaxing into Being Cape Town 2011: Living the question vs Living the Solution or Conclusion or Answer.
[iv] How to Relax in Everyday Life Webinar.